Is there a stigma set upon us as we hit adulthood and begin our careers? What about our dating lives? When is it time to settle down and grow some roots? These are just a few of the questions we ask ourselves as we become older and find our way in the world. And when it comes to matters of the heart, finding a mate in this day and age is a tricky situation. Long gone are the days where everyone followed a set of societal rules: job, move away from mom and dad, find a mate, engagement, marriage ‘til death do you part. Now these social norms are varied. One doesn’t necessarily have to follow the proverbial beaten path. But is this way of life you’ve chosen actually helping your situation or hurting it? As we swiftly approach what most would consider the “day for lovers”, it’d be apropos to think about what just how much living situations affect our dating lives. After all, we are in the business of helping folks find their newest abode; it’s only fitting that we discuss what the opposite sex will be looking for as we search for the perfect dwelling. Because let’s face it: where you live DEFINITELY affects who you date.
Trulia commissioned a survey that asks the basic question: when it comes to dating and housing, what’s hot and what’s not?
I don’t think there is any doubt that living with your parents as an adult is not going to make you the highest commodity. While there IS a large percentage of adults still with mom and pops (nearly 25 million), only 5% of single people are interested in getting involved in that situation. Similarly, roommates aren’t all that much better. Single adults are much more interested in finding someone that lives alone, but the difference between men and women is opposite. Men would like their woman to live in a big city (aka your typical Sex & the City gal), while women would prefer their man to live in the suburbs. Just one more reason dating is tough out there…we’re in completely different locations!
What is interesting is the fact that renting vs. owning doesn’t seem to be much of a factor. Nearly two-thirds of unmarried U.S. adults don’t consider owning a home “marriage material” or having any sort of advantage when it comes to dating. In fact, while most believe there is a certain level of commitment involved in owning your own home, 43% did not think it was any indication of whether or not that person was ready for marriage or in any way ready for long-term commitment in a personal relationship. But when it comes to the discussion of co-habitation, 74% of America’s single population are very much interested in moving in with their significant other in order to save a buck or two. And of those 74%, it was actually the MEN that were more interested in this idea of the women. Yes, they may not want to buy the cow, but they’ll sleep in the barn with em!
So when you’re out showing your newest single client certain homes keep their situation in mind. Their new digs could be a deal breaker when they hit the dating scene. Happy Valentine’s Day!
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